Caring for a loved one with special needs can often be tiring and demanding. Many times there is no one else to help the elderly or disabled loved one requiring all of your time, devotion, and focus on care giving issues. All too often, this leads to care givers being overwhelmed and stressed out them.
Being family, the caregivers have no alternative; they must be there. Failure to do so can lead to an escalation of decline that promotes greater injury or illness. Countless surveys and research results have found that the caregivers are also suffering injuries and illnesses due to their being worn out by the constant tasks at hand. If you are the worn out caregiver, any of these results will harm your ability to care for your loved one.
Since there are no other options for so many caregivers, here is an easy list of nine “build in” steps to make sure you are less stressed while caring for your loved one. The list is adapted from New York Times columnist Jane Brody's excellent Nov. 17, 2008, column, "Caring for Family, Caring for Yourself."
1. Build in Step One: Time off or Respite
The “Family” job lacks benefits and time off. It is important to give yourself a scheduled break at least once a week. Make sure that you take some nights off as well, find a good short period care giver and just relax. If you can not find a caregiver, have people over to your house.
2. Build in Step Two: A Relaxing Hobby
If you can not get out at least once a week, create a hobby that will ease your stress, and can be done while care-giving. Knitting, sewing, painting, cooking, etc. anything that will not take your full and utmost attention can be used to relax. You can even invite people over during this time for a sitting.
3. Build in Step Three: Your Vacation
Build in time for a separate vacation from the vacations that you might take with your loved one you need to schedule a week where you are on “vacation.” This does not even need to be a vacation out of your house, although it would be better if it were, this just needs to be a week where you are not responsible for care giving.
4. Build in Step Four: Keeping up Physical and Mental Stamina
For your and your loved one’s sake you must build in a workout in some way, shape, or form. This does not have to be an “event”, or even something that you have to do without your loved one. Get a family club membership, buy a at home workout DVD, find a community exercise group, all of these situations should be able to incorporate your loved one into the workout routine.
5. Build in Step Five: Nutritious and Wholesome Diet
The better you eat the more energy you have, and the healthier you feel. Feeling energized and healthy is important for your stress level and stamina when being a caregiver. Cutting out overly fatty, sugary, and processed foods can really make you feel better psychologically and physically
6. Build in Step Six: Rest; Don’t Cheat Sleep
Without a good amount of rest the relationship between you and your loved one can become very strained. It is important to try to make up all sleep that is missed, even if it is just by cat napping in the day.
7. Build in Step Seven: A Support Network; Get In Touch with the Care Giver Community
In addition to family, neighbors and church friends, build in relationships with the various supports groups available through organizations like those that follow with internet links to their websites: 1. Alzheimer’s Association – http://www.alz.org.; 2. Arthritis Foundation – http://www.arthritis.org.; 3. National Parkinson Foundation - http://www.parkinson.org.; 4. National Multiple Sclerosis Society - http://www.nationalmssociety.org.; 5. American Diabetes Association - http://www.diabetes.org. Also connect with your Area Agency on Aging – there is one every community.
8. Build in Step Eight: Consult with A Board Certified Elder Law Attorney or Special Needs Planner –
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